Teach EYFS Article - Distractions
Here is the second in this series of articles based on conversations with children, and first published in Teach Early Years magazine. In each piece, I’ll focus on one prominent theme. For this one, it’s DISTRACTIONS!
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- • What lesson would you like grown-ups to learn about how to talk to children?
- “Not to get lost in looking at their phones and then five minutes later say, ‘What?’" G (female)
This answer is not an isolated response, several of the children
who have taken part in the How to Speak Child interview process
have complained about struggling to get the attention of adults -
especially when it comes to prising them away from their
This is somewhat of an irony, considering that it tends to be
youngsters who are the most regularly accused of being unable to
put down their devices and engage with people and the world
It’s also the response that has generated the greatest sense of
shame from the grown-ups. Overwhelmingly, adults have
admitted to having been found out, holding their hands up and
confessing, “Yes, that’s me, I’m so guilty of that!”
So what’s up with us, how come we are allowing ourselves to be so
weak and so hypocritical to boot? Are we really so much more in
thrall to our online lives than we are interested in our own children?
Of course we aren’t, we are merely, like them, the victims of a huge
commercial machine whose business it is to grab our attention and
hang on to it for as long as possible. Let’s not beat ourselves up
about it - and after all, at school, it’s not a problem is it?
Because we are busy with the greater task of teaching and all that
time-eating social media and so forth is under lock and key.
However, even in the classroom, we can still be guilty of allowing
ourselves to be distracted from what our children are trying to tell
us. Whether we’re lost in our own thoughts or internal dialogue,
trying to do too many things at once, or juggling the tech we use
for teaching and the demands on our attention from the little ones.
We get used to dismissing their persistent calls to be noticed whilst
we grapple with constant multi-tasking, but we must beware that it
doesn’t become habitual and eventually lead to our children giving
up and feeling that their voices don’t matter.
When the boot is on the other foot, we find it incredibly frustrating,
so it’s important that we apply the old Do-As-You-Would-Be-Done-
By adage. Take a deep breath and employ some empathy, no
matter how many times it’s happened before, explain that they
need to wait, and let them know why. We are role models whether
we like it or not, so if we are displaying undesirable behaviour, we
lose credibility when we later berate them for doing the same.
Even if we are not particularly paying heed to them, they are
taking in everything that we do, judging if they believe it to be
acceptable, and exercising their profound sense of injustice. The
seeds you sow now will define the nature of the fruit we’ll all get to
enjoy in the future. So let them see that they are worthy of your
attention, and that even if they have to be patient and wait for you,
they are secure in the knowledge that they take precedence over